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Mon, Apr 14th 2008, 03:52

Small talk is something I am terrible at in English, so in German it is ten times as awkward and difficult for me.

Germans also seem to be pretty terrible at small talk. The concept of small talk is to talk about light subjects that aren't really important. Well, Germans don't appreciate superficiality, and don't like to waste time for nothing, so small talk is a relatively novel idea here.

In my German class we discussed possible topics for small talk, and where you might have to engage in such conversations. I also read a really good blog about the difficulties of making small talk in a non-native language, on the blog Life in Germany. You should check it out.

Anytime I meet new people, or visit Mike's family, I am stuck with the dilemma of trying to think of things to say in a language I am very bad at. This makes it incredibly hard to make friends, and also very hard to form relationships with his family. I mostly try to use the universal language of smiling, and make the occasional silly, one-word remarks to make people laugh. Nothing too different from what I do in English, I guess.

Hopefully as I get better at the language, I will think of more things to say, but small talk is a skill I need to work on in English as well.

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Hey, it's funny that you mention that small talk is hard in a foreign language. I've been to CA twice now and I think that is way easier to find something to talk about (first small talk, "shallow" and then moving on to important topics) with the people there than it is in Austria (I live near Vienna). People in shopping malls, stores and on the streets are more likely to ask "how are you doing today sir" or something like that. People your age (I'm 19) are more open to talk to somebody they hardly know. In the beginning it felt kind of strange and I realized that I had to be more outgoing because it would have been quite rude to not say "Thank you and How are you today?"... I don't think it is superfluous to say things like that, it's just polites. I am more outgoing since that and it really made me realize how rude people are in Europe... :) It's really interesting to read about that experience the other way around (English-speaking -> German)
Nice blog by the way!

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